Well I hate to break it to you, but women and men are very different. Although you may feel like you’re giving her everything she needs, many times you find out later, that’s not the case. The good thing is women don’t have to be a complete mystery, they often give plenty of subtle signs telling you what they want during a relationship.

You just need to know what to look for and avoid making the same mistakes many guys make while dating. For one thing, have you ever asked yourself why women break up with a guy who gives them everything they need? Well obviously if it was “everything,” they wouldn’t leave wanting more… so what is it that makes girls want to break up?

Well, here are some of the top reasons your girlfriend may become an ex girlfriend if you don’t watch out.

1. She’s not attracted to you anymore. This ones a biggie and it can mean several different things. For starters women want a man with plenty of self confidence.

If you’re the jealous type who doesn’t trust your girlfriend, this is often perceived as a sign of low self confidence to your girl. They may put up with it for a while, but before too long you will start to look unappealing to them. In short you become a wuss.

The funny thing is, girlfriends almost always try to give you signs you’re being a wuss, often resulting in you feeling worse and acting more jealous, more clingy etc. It’s a downward spiral once this starts.

Your girl doesn’t want a wussy, she wants a man. Why do you think many girls go for the bad boy types, the ones they know will end up hurting them in the long run?

It’s uncontrollable instinct and it’s due to the fact that these types of guys have a high level of self confidence, and… They are in control.

Bad boys are humorous, playful and exciting. They don’t hang on the girls every move. If you’re too clingy it could mean disaster for your relationship. Which leads us to number two.

2. You’re too predictable. Women want some excitement in their lives and if you’ve fallen into the rut of just going through the motions you are probably boring her. Most women find “nice guys,” while cute, and great for friends, very boring overall. You don’t want to end up in this category, demoted to friend material status, do you?

If you’re not making your girlfriend experience new things, acting unpredictable, taking charge, surprising her and telling her where you’re taking her tonight, then your relationship is suspect.

Your girlfriend wants passion. When she asks what you want to do tonight, she doesn’t want to hear you say, “whatever you want to do!” Many guys fall into the trap of trying to do everything they can to impress a girl. Often totally unaware of how much damage they are doing to their relationship.

Don’t make your girlfriend look elsewhere to find the feelings of excitement that she wants.

Many women want to feel the excitement of a man who is confident in himself, self sustaining and knows what he wants. Are you showing your lady that your unpredictable and passionate? Or are you continually acting predictable and dull?

3. My boyfriends not there for me. Guys, if you are not there for your girl, then your lack of attention will get her looking elsewhere for someone who gives her more attention.

This can be best corrected with a balanced approach. Obviously it can be a fine line due to the fact that you don’t want to seem too clingy, right? Your best bet is to show you care, give her regular attention and still maintain your normal activities with your friends. Spending one on one time just with her is a good way to alleviate your girlfriends lack of attention problem.

4. You are Not compatible to her core beliefs. This one is tricky and simply put means you both don’t hold the same values in high regard. If you’re a conservative money grubbing capitalist banker and she’s a die hard socialist liberal then chances are you guys might not see exactly eye to eye.

It sometimes happens that after a while of dating a girl you both realize just how different you really are. In this case good communication is crucial to talk about where you both stand to try to better understand what your girlfriend really wants.

5. Your level of commitment. Are you in there for the long haul or just fooling around. Women are constantly evaluating the situation of the relationship and how it stacks up to their long term plans.

If you both are at different stages it can put a huge strain on the romance. Does she want to get married while you’re still in dating mode? If so you want to confront these issues before they blow up.

Of course, these are just a few of the many reasons a relationship can fall apart. There are hundreds of reasons why women break up with men. For more answers on how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up, you’ll definitely want to follow this link.

Many people after a bad break up, especially if they were the one dumped and feel absolutely horrible about it, want to know what, if anything they can do. If it came by surprise and you truly love your ex then the thoughts and questions can feel overwhelming.

One of the biggest haunting questions after a break up is, “does my ex still love me?”

If you have a sincere desire to get back together with your ex, you should know whether they do and what signs to look for so you can rekindle your relationship, and get things back to how they were.

Often there are some tell-tale signs that your ex wants to get back together. You may not know it and even completely miss these signs if you’re not careful.

Here’s a few of the biggest signs your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend still loves you and may want you back.

1. The first and most important sign is that your ex wants to keep in contact with you. It’s a good indication if you hear through the grapevine that they miss you and want to know what you’ve been doing. If your ex still makes an effort to remain in contact with you then there’s a good chance they still love you. It could be that they’re talking about you to be cordial or “nice,” so pay close attention to what your ex is saying. Are they just being nice or do you detect something more?

It’s natural that after any amount of time spent with someone that you’ll have mutual friends together. If your ex is asking about you or they are showing up in the places you go, there’s a good chance it’s not an accident. If encounters with your ex are somewhat frequent in the form of calls, or questions, it probably means they still care about you. If the contact is more frequent then there’s a good chance it’s love.

2. Your ex wants to meet up. Even if it’s just to say hi. Meeting up with your ex that results in innocent flirtation or physical closeness should definitely let you know there’s something still there. In this situation things to look for is how your ex acts. Are they looking in your eyes. Making eye contact with you or touching you casually can signal that they are comfortable with you.

3. The ex is still considering a future with you in it. Do they mention a plan or project you both were working on while you were together and include you? If the future plans include a reference to you being involved, then that’s a good sign.

4. Is your ex taking responsibility for their own actions and blame as to why the relationship didn’t work. This is usually a sign that they wish to talk about what went wrong in order to reconcile and possibly start over. Just make sure that if you do get back you don’t fall into the trap of repeating the same mistakes again.

5. Is your ex showing obvious signs of working on improving themselves or following the suggestions you made to them in the past? If your ex is making an effort to improve themselves in your eyes, it can be a clear signal that they value the relationship and are thinking of getting back together.

However, just because some of the signs listed above may or may not be evident doesn’t necessarily mean your ex does or doesn’t want you back. One of the things too consider is are they being genuine with you or are they the type to keep you holding on.

Maybe they have really moved on and are too stubborn to let you go. Many times people hold on to past relationships even though they don’t want any part of them anymore. Either they want to feel in control, are just jealous and want you hanging on, or they could even hold a grunge and not want you to find happiness. That’s why it’s important to carefully analyze the signs and compare them to the person. Only then can you determine your best course of action.

There are many more signs your ex still loves you.

Left Waiting – Part One

you said meet me at eight
you showed up at nine
I waited for you
you showed no sign

looking for love in you
passion was there
not knowing what to do
your eyes i’d stare

hoping that love was real
you charmed me all night
avoiding the hard questions
i didn’t want to fight

it came to the end
after you got what you want
now I’m all alone
you continue your hunt…

Left Waiting – Part Two

Watching and waiting
by the phone
no calls, no knocking’
i’m still alone

i know in my heart
that true love was not
still i’m left waiting
thinking it could be taught

with a little more time
maybe one more night
i could convince you
it will be alright

————————————————————————————–

Want help to Get Your EX Back <— Click Here!

Absence — that common cure of love.
Miguel De Cervantes

You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it.
Anonymous

Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
Robert Frost

Other men said they have seen angels,But I have seen thee And thou art enough.
G. Moore

If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?
Unknown

I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.
David Bissonnette

When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.
Elizabeth Bowen

The greatest thing you’ll ever learn, Is to love and be loved in return.
Natalie Cole

I’ve been in love with the same woman for forty-one years. If my wife finds out, she’ll kill me.
Henry Youngman

It’s better to have loved and lost than to do forty pounds of laundry a week.
Laurence J. Peter

If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?
Lily Tomlin

Love is the delightful interval between meeting a beautiful girl and discovering that she looks like a haddock.
John Barrymore

A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point. That’s basic spelling that every woman ought to know.
Mistinguette

————————————————————————————–

Want to Get Your EX Back <— Click Here!

After all you’ve worked hard at getting over your ex, not chasing them, rebuilding your self esteem, and working on upping your attraction factor, right?

You made it through the tough “no call time,” and now you’re ready to get back out in the dating scene. Here’s the questions you need to know upfront to make absolutely sure this boyfriend is right for you.

These first questions are geared for those of you who have joined a dating service and written a profile that paints a perfect picture of you. This means you’ve already uploaded a few great looking pictures, and now you are ready to start talking with some people you’re beginning to meet. In a little bit we’ll hit, “what to ask, to learn more about your future boyfriend,” to get a good idea what he’s like.

It’s at this stage you want to start separating the loser boyfriends from the ones with real potential. It would be nice if you owned some sort of B.S detector, or at the very least a pet that could growl at the real assholes. You need to find out if the person you’ve met is who they really say they are… or believe they are.

Wouldn’t it be cool if men wore signs like “Player” or “Baby Daddy,” or even, “Felon!”… but unfortunately they don’t so it’s completely up to you to find out these things for yourself. The best way to do this is to just come right out and ask direct questions.

The goal here is to find out what mistakes to avoid making and the best way to impress this guy if you decide he seems right for you. After you are past the initial small chit chat, just come right out and ask him. What are the biggest mistakes girls make when dating online?”

You’ll want to listen thoughtfully to his answers. Hopefully with that question you’ll get a glimpse into what his views are on women. Many guys won’t say much or give a definitive answer, so you may need to coax them with more small talk. A good follow up questions would be, “What do you really think about dating online?”

From here he might tell you about any bad experiences dating he’s had with online dating and possibly give you an idea of what to avoid. what you should really be aiming for is this question which should give you insight into what kind of guy you’re dealing with…

It’s an important one and it goes something like this ”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” Chance are if he pours all the blame squarely on his ex then he’s probably not being honest. This would be a red flag that maybe you want to keep on looking.

If he puts all the blame on himself, then he may be being honest, but not necessarily a good catch. It pays to be aware his reasons for breaking up and how he treated his ex. If he says the breakup was due to a mutual agreement, or it just wasn’t a good match, then you may have the correct answer you’re looking for.

As you eventually begin to see the new boyfriend, you’ll be able to ramp up the questions accordingly. You want someone who makes you feel wanted and won’t end up taking advantage of you. With careful planning you get to know your boyfriend better and avoid potential pitfalls like being strung along, lied too, cheated on, or worse.

As the relationship progresses you can ask things like:

1. Describe yourself in a single sentence
2. What would you cook for me?
3. What would you like to change about yourself?
4. If you could have three wishes, what would they be?
5. Do you make friends easy?
6. What’s your idea of the perfect date?
7. Where do you see yourself in five, ten, fifteen years?
8. Who is your favorite hero of all time?
9. Do you consider yourself a happy person?
10. What is your greatest trait, accomplishment, goal for the future.

The list can go on and on. Continue to use your imagination to find out as much as you can about your future boyfriend. Ask these questions and don’t be afraid to learn the truth. Many men may try to avoid this stuff, but in the end it will tell you a lot about the person you’re with.